We all face situations that we do not like in our lives. There are always projects or tasks that just have to be done which we would prefer not to do. There will always instances when we need to work with depression. One of the aspects of maturity and accepting responsibility for our lives is doing the things that have to be done and doing them correctly regardless of whether we're in the mood. Here are some methods you can employ to help you to deal with those kinds of activities you'd prefer not to: 1. Make sure you are clear about the project or task you have to complete 2. Relax your body completely from head to toe (take some time to do this) and focus on the spot between your navel and the floor. This is often referred to as your lower Dantien as it is the point that helps you focus, balance and strength within. Focusing on this area can help you feel more centred in your body, more solid and grounded. For more detail please visit:- http://belfastchronicle.co.uk http://birminghambulletin.co.uk http://glasgowtelegraph.co.uk 3. From this position of focus you must accept that the task or project is required to be completed, and that it can be taken care of by you or someone else. 4. Determine what aspects of the task or undertaking have you put off. 5. Consider each obstacle and find ways to overcome it, for example: * Task is too big (can you make it smaller?) * I can't do it by myself (can you seek help? Where are you?) * It's filthy, grimy (can you imagine this as a character-building exercise?) * I don't understand it/don't have the right knowledge (can you get the right training or help?) It's boring (can you come up with a method to make it more fun?) 6. Make space for the conclusion of the project or task. Set a date for when you plan to finish the task. Be aware that you might not complete it by the exact end date you put on it However, the fact that you now have a timeframe can help to galvanise you and get you busy. Making timeframes may, however be a double-edged weapon. While a well-calculated timeframe can be a great way to get you moving, a badly estimated one can not only increase your general stress levels, but also deflate you when the majority of you is convinced you'll not be able to reach the goal. The trick is getting proficient, through practice and practice, in setting timeframes for yourself for whatever you do on a daily basis. How long do you need to cook dinner? How long will you need to drive from work to return? What is the fastest time to get this report done? What time do you anticipate it to take to get the car fixed? If you start putting timeframes on the activities you perform every day, you'll be able to get a feel of your speed and most importantly, your way of working when demotivation begins to show up. As time passes, it becomes easy to estimate how long your most important tasks and tasks will take and be able to communicate this to your colleagues. If the timeframe isn't yours but someone else's, aim to complete your task or project bythe expiration date of theirs. Essentially you're setting a timeframe within a timeframe. If it's getting close to the deadline, make every effort to complete it by that date. If this isn't possible, ask for an fair but certain extension, e.g. an extra seven days, an extra 14 days, an extra hour etc. Be sure to complete the activity by the end of the extension period because requesting another postponement may begin to cast doubt on the confidence you place in your own eyes, and your credibility in the eyes of those close to you. Implementing these strategies whenever you don't feel like doing something you're sure must be done, you'll begin to notice positive and significant shifts in how you work in the face of motivational issues. Carmen Gilfillan is the founder of Stimulus Training & Development. Stimulus specialises in helping individuals overcome emotional trauma, experience emotional breakthroughs and lead their most fulfilled lives. We do this by offering the use of Life & Wellness Coaching, Emotional Freedom consultations as well as training in areas of personal, professional , and spiritual growth.